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There is nothing magic about the Internet. It is just another way for men and women to meet, like school, church, work, or in bars. The Internet has the advantage of exposing you to a great many more experiences than you would otherwise have at church or school- and it's this added number of contacts that cause the problem. On the Internet, you have to be prepared for the added risk of meeting someone who will do harm to you. This does not mean that you should not take the risk. Of course you can - just keep your eyes as open as your heart.
Remember that eight out of ten Internet posters are men. Consequently, women have it four times easier than men when they want to socialize. You must be prepared some will ignore or reject you out of hand on a scale you never dreamt of. But do not take it personally, that is all about statistics.
I believe that about two women in three that you meet on the Internet will exhibit a serious personal problem that you need to consider. For about one in three, the problem will be so serious, that you will simply not want that woman in your life.
These odds sound bad, but they are actually good news. It means that you know what your risks are, and have a good way to begin measuring how well you're doing. Here are some of the women you need to watch out for:
-Some are married but don't admit it at first. While this sounds good; believe me, you don't want the problem after your third or fourth meeting.
-This also goes for children. I personally haven't run into very many single moms pretending to be sirens in the night, but it does happen. In any case, it's a big thing to lie about. By the third or fourth email exchange you should know.
-Many women have serious emotional problems. You should familiarize yourself with what neuroses are, and pay particular attention to what a personality disorder is. You WILL meet them, and they hide it well at first. So just be attentive.
-Some are more interested in your money than they are in you. There are several forms - the trickiest to recognize, is the upper middle class "doctors' daughter" who thinks her insanely high standard of living is her birthright, and doesn't realize how rude she is.
-Men pretending to be women. No comments here.
-Foreign-born women. Men over thirty meet many more foreign-born women than their local women think they do. There’s nothing wrong with them except that they also fit the profile above - but you will experience some added risks.
Be careful with the place where you choose to search for women from other countries, and take into account conditions offered to be able to contact them. Also you will have an added cultural barrier to cross. Although another side is that rather often it also turns that people miles apart can have more in common than some couples married for years.
Remember that many good women are simply not appropriate for you. If you have strong religious or political or other personal values; then you must be double sure before you get too close. A woman isn't a bad choice just because you decide not to choose her. You have personal tastes and cultural expectations that you probably don't know you have. Sit down and make a list - define your expectations - before going out on the Internet. Include age; weight; race; health; children; personal interests; profession - later this will keep you out of a lot of trouble. The people you meet will thank you for it. Incidentally, be ready to change your mind over time, too.
After you've met someone and had fun for a few posts; spend some time where you politely but conscientiously try to discover how many relationships they've had and how they ended, and what their job status, money values, and attitudes toward people in general are. Are they suspicious of everything? Do they brag that they are beautiful or smart? Are they employed or in School? Are they married? Do they have children? Do they think all people are basically 'good' or basically 'bad?' Just check on the basics. You will be surprised two times out of three.
Make sure you also check on the basics for that special person you just met - the one you are most sure of could be the very one that stings you.
Never send money, addresses, and pictures or anything personal to anyone you correspond with until you have a really good reason and trust enough. Do not "help out" any woman you are corresponding with socially on the Internet.
Often most of our problems, men or women, comes when we want a closer relationship with someone else than they want with us. This is where our time and money goes; when we run the heaviest social and financial risks; and when our hearts break. Take a half-step back to look at the situation and think twice.
Hopefully reading this will not scare you off from Internet communication but only gives you more knowledge on what can be expected; not always but still such things happen. So better use experiences of other people who went through all kinds of situations and be wiser going your own way.
As usually we wish you good luck!
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